I’m going to talk today about the indulgence of victimhood.
Learned helplessness is a way to avoid taking the actions and steps that you (kind of) want to take in order to live the life that you want to live.
Pain is universal. But suffering is pain multiplied by resistance. You suffer when you resist the difficulties of life. And for me, victimhood is a way to indulge in that suffering.
Victimhood is asking “why me? Why am I constantly having this problem?” A survivor doesn’t ask that. A survivor is always going to be asking, “Okay, what’s next?” because the most difficult people and experiences in your life can actually drive you to the most wonderful echelons of understanding. They can be your grandest teachers, but when you’re identifying as the victim, it absolves you of the responsibility to take action.
We choose our response to the setbacks of life. So if you find that victimhood is justifying your pain, justifying your lack of action, justifying your inability, then it might be worthwhile to take another look at that. It is a wonderful way of protecting ourselves from taking risks because of the pains we’ve previously experienced. But the end result is further suffering, and everybody loses.
If instead, you can accept the reality of whatever underpins the victimhood without identifying as a victim, you then give yourself permission to take action. You know where you stand, and you know the direction in which to travel. And it’s always action and experience that turn into progress. Food for thought. I hope that’s interesting and useful!
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