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Procrastination

Would you like to procrastinate less?  Probably.  Most people seem to, and yet it continues.  What is this part within us that outplays our willpower and holds all the aces?   

The problem

Let’s start by defining procrastination as a lack of energy to do the things that we should do or would like to do.  Perhaps you have a book just itching to be written;  fingers hover motionless above the keyboard when imperceptibly, energy drops and the mind wanders. 

Unless it’s a conscious choice to let things go and take a break, at the heart of every decent procrastinating tendency is an unresolved conflict and a lack of appreciation that our time on this earth is finite.  

Unresolved conflicts vary greatly depending upon our experiences and the type of goals that we set ourselves.  Carrot-and-stick “should’s” are the easiest to conceptualise as they often come with a very big stick and not much carrot.  “Would like to do” goals are more subtle:  in these, the objective that we really do want seems a distant aspiration that requires effort and sacrifice to reach.  Perhaps the dopamine reward won’t be worth it or only be short-lived.   Or all that effort might come to nothing or worse, make us a laughing stock if we blunder.  Fear of judgement and rejection can be truly worthy adversaries, even in the face of the most robust and sparkling of goals. 

Procrastination offers a safe refuge to soothe ourselves.  A comfortable delusion, it represents a very simple human need for protection against pain or fear, perhaps avoiding potential disapproval or the repetition of a previous mis-take. It shows up within us as a draining of energy but in reality, the subconscious is hard at work doing what it does best: protecting us from potential hurt.  No matter what our willpower might contest is the truth, a deeper part of us feels its duty is to protect us from repeating a particular pain that resonates within us. The inner mind holds a powerful grip on our emotions and so it engineers its own success and by-passes the neo cortex.  We sub-consciously lower our energy and our presumptuous brain, intent upon defending its conscious primacy, finds a way to rationalise that lack of energy.  Or it simply distracts us.

 

A solution

 

Where focus goes, energy flows, and the inner mind isn’t good at distinguishing between negatives and positives.  So rather than focusing on what we don’t want, might it be better to look instead at what we are wanting to do?  Forget about trying to amputate or censure the procrastinating side of yourself, it is far stronger than your willpower.  Instead, make friends with it.  Pat it on the head and say thanks.  Get in touch with any feelings lurking within and just listen.  Every uncomfortable feeling has a useful message and often simply acknowledging that message releases its sting. 

Instead of wondering, “How do I stop myself from procrastinating?”, let your intuition lead you to the most enticing, energy-filled opposite that you do want to go towards.  Really listen to your needs and you will come up with a feeling that naturally draws you towards it.  Elevate that feeling higher:  vividly imagine it and ask yourself, what is the even more important feeling or need that is driving me deep down?  What am I really here to fulfil?  Imagine yourself effortlessly meeting that need and ask again, is there an even higher purpose I am working towards?   Keep going until your highest purpose fills you, paint its vision in your mind’s eye and feel it in your fingertips.  Hear it all around you and fill your emotions with the way it feels.  Shift your posture and live the experience in your body until it tingles. 

And with that sensation in mind, rather than looking at a goal or an end result as being the unique source of pleasure, begin to consider the whole journey as a source of fulfilment towards your higher purpose. It’s a magnetic voyage filled with learning, connection and opportunity.  In that state, rather than having to do the work to reach a particular end goal, you get to live the joy of your higher purpose, learn, develop and grow with each and every step towards it.  We have such a brief time to play upon this earth and in this way, each step holds meaning, passion and joy.    

 

Pain and pleasure

 

People tend to run away from pain or towards pleasure, and given a choice between the two will usually run away from pain.  So turn your attention to who and what suffers if you ignore your higher purpose:  your integrity, values or your zest for life?  Your business, clients, colleagues or friends?  Pause and let those thoughts ponder. In an instant, procrastination is no longer a comfortable delusion: it becomes a waste of every spark of light and creative juice coursing through the body.  

When you focus on a daring dream to live the finest version of yourself, emotions shift and a state of flow commences.  The inner mind’s perception of its protective role adjusts to its emotional need to thrive with integrity and authenticity.  Anything less becomes the definition of pain. 

 

Harmony

 

Now of course, this isn’t the whole story: our limbic, feeling brain holds an ocean of emotions in its toolbox.  Even with the most ecstatic of intentions, we may subconsciously find other ways to protect ourselves from risks we perceive.  Our deepest fight/flight/freeze response is hardwired to focus on risks, so how can a rational neo-cortex ever hope to master a churning sea of emotions?  The answer, I suspect, is that it simply can’t.  Only in building harmony within ourselves will our focus be free from distraction and mixed messages.  And this is where getting comfortable with being uncomfortable becomes such a blessing.  Each time we step outside our comfort zone, we release endorphins that flood our synapses with happiness.  We build new habits, our decision-making becomes more confident and we renew our opinion of ourselves.  Bumps along the road, mis-takes and the judgement of others seem less momentous.  They become necessary obstacles toward the shining imperative of personal growth and integrity. 

Whether you choose to call it neuroplasticity, heightened self-awareness, renewed cell memory or a harmony of the conscious and the subconscious, permanent change occurs when we shift perception. 

Procrastination is a very human trait but by embracing the wonder of the journey as well as the goal, a shift in perception can accompany almost any task.  Every moment of every day, we have the freedom to choose our own perceptions.  Think of all the things that went well yesterday, the blessings and opportunities that came your way.   Make friends with your mental blocks, accept the mystery of life and relax into joy.  Breathe.  With self-acceptance comes self-discipline, so check in with yourself once a week to see if you are on track.  Forgive yourself when you drift, it’s human.  Nobody ever walked the first time they tried. 

Life can be so short and unpredictable, so when would now be a good time to start?