How to achieve meaningful goals
Life mastery methodology
What is life coaching?
Try thinking about it as an ultimate form of active, collaborative learning. Did you ever think about how you learn best? Sitting in front of a lecturer, trying to absorb what is being discussed, or by actively experiencing and being involved in the learning process, experimenting and contributing? Most people prefer the active route: it’s much more fun and engaging, and so it accelerates results.
Nobody knows what your future holds and nobody else holds the same feelings and representations inside themselves as you do. So our coaching will, inevitably, be absolutely unique. Coaching is about asking the right questions and listening for possibilities. In many ways, we are all simply the result of the questions that we ask. And so coaching allows you the complete freedom to ask those questions you haven’t yet asked and to create what has yet to be created.
There are many variants of coaching and coaches typically draw upon multiple techniques to best serve their clients. My method of activating the resources within you has a multi-disciplinary underpinning and so is sufficiently adaptable to follow your unique circumstances. The approach combines rigorous techniques gathered together by Tony Robbins, Chloe Madanes, Mark and Magali Peysha in human needs psychology, ayurveda, cognitive therapy, Ericksonian hypnotherapy and neurolinguistics. I supplement this with meaningful life scientific approaches undertaken by the University of Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and with transformative therapeutic techniques supported by Dr John Butler.
My personal aim is to elevate your inner strengths and to resolve detrimental states and fixed ideas that inhibit your personal and professional growth from blossoming: to help you find more resourceful states and ultimately shift your internal metaphors until the sky is, metaphorically, the limit. How do we reveal your internal metaphors? By carefully questioning your inner mind using clean language techniques. This makes sure that the imagery and ideas that emerge are yours and yours alone, untainted by my expectations, biases or interpretations.
Each week we will explore a specific technique adapted quite uniquely to improve your specific circumstances, be they in your home life, social life, career, health, spirituality, personal development, family, community, finances or more broadly, your personal well-being. Each individual session acknowledges and aims to improve a specific behaviour, belief, state or emotion so that the cumulative effect of multiple sessions creates a bedrock of support, like a series of stepping stones from which to propel yourself towards your life goals. Comforting illusions evaporate,replaced by confidence, inner support, wisdom and newfound resource which will ultimately improve your connection, communication, mutual understanding and happiness.
“Who looks outside, dreams…. Who looks inside, awakens”
This all sounds too good to be true.
Let’s get some things straight out of the way: this isn’t magic, I’m not a guru and my life is far from perfect. Also, I’m not here to tell you how to live your life or to show you ‘the way’. I don’t know the answers to your questions, in fact I don’t even know what your questions are just yet. But as Jung said, “Who looks outside, dreams…. Who looks inside, awakens”. And that’s what this is all about.
Perhaps it feels safer to resist. It can’t be that easy, right? But changes can happen in a split second when you make the decision. Do you really want to make a change? Or, do you perhaps absolutely need to make a change? Are your goals and purposes in life hazy or are they clear? Do you find yourself lacking something that feels to be important and just can’t quite put your finger on it? Or are your goals frustratingly always just out of reach? This is what coaching is for. It’s not mumbo-jumbo, it’s tried and tested. So, give it a try. You don’t have to believe it to experience it. Or ask around, see what others say, and then make an informed decision.
Will I feel uncomfortable?
Possibly. Maybe, maybe not. Personally, I have found that all the progress that I ever made in life felt a bit uncomfortable at the time. Indeed, in retrospect I sometimes laugh at how meaningless the great successes of my life actually were and how utterly extraordinary and fabulous my greatest failures became. It seems like we don’t get too far feeling comfortable. My job here isn’t to make you feel comfortable or uncomfortable, it’s to help you get results. To get those results, you have to own your decisions, own your responsibility, and embrace it. Squeeze it. Depending upon your temperament, that can be thrilling or can make you feel uneasy. Everyone is different. But we will work together with respect and kindness, it will be a lot of fun, probably very revealing, and ultimately it will be really, really great.
Will it work?
The best way to answer that question is for us to get on the phone and discuss your particular circumstances. Everyone is different but if you truly want to improve then I am confident the techniques I use can be transformational.
How does it work?
As the saying goes, you never see your own blind spots. With the best of intentions, we can all go through life without noticing our fixed ideas, our inhibitions or our safely vague intentions… and equally we can meander from day to day not ever really engaging the strengths, resources and creativity within ourselves to build our lives the way we truly want. Sometimes we simply don’t hold the roadmap to where we want to go.
My approach to coaching works by applying tested, relevant techniques to raise awareness, release inhibitions and welcome the resources within you to achieve your goals. It involves taking practical, rigorous steps together, typically once per week, that make tangible improvements in your life, your perception and your outlook. It’s active, it’s fun, it’s non-judgemental and it makes life more authentic and more honest. It requires your effort to step up and embrace the task, take responsibility for your life and really engage in taking those steps that you want to take to improve your life.
You may be someone who likes to practice between sessions in which case we will make time to support your way of working. Or you may be someone who needs time to digest each discovery in your own time. I will honour your needs and adapt my approach to help you work in harmony with the style most effective for you.
Is it safe?
Absolutely. One of my main undertakings is to create a “space” for you where you feel comfortable and safe to grow. Clients and coach work on an equal footing, sharing the responsibility and the intent, to obtain great results in collaboration.
I have the feeling this could be for me, but I’m not sure. How can I become more certain?
The best way is to experience it. That’s why I offer a free discussion that can bring clarity. We can go over exactly what you are hoping for and what techniques I can bring to you. At the end of our conversation we should both be in a good position to say whether or not we can work effectively together to bring about the results that you want to achieve.