In this vid, I will offer you a better way of thinking about and dealing with difficult people. You know the ones? They trigger a feeling inside you that probably has a sense of injustice and unfairness. It might trigger anger, frustration, or defensiveness, but it’s something that you really, really don’t like. As it appears in the story in your mind, this person is hell-bent on making you feel uncomfortable. They’re almost gleefully chuckling about making you feel bad.

Consider those triggered moments, and therefore, the person doing the trigger, to be a gift, a tutor, shining a light on the part of you that needs attention. The feelings inside us are caused by our perceptions, not by the other person, but they are informing you of a part of yourself that you are ill at ease with. And there’s an opportunity there to make better friends with yourself.

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#selfawareness #tolerance

Guilt and shame can trap us in our own vice (literally and metaphorically!). But here’s the thing: they can actually be helpful guides if we use them as a messenger to know ourselves better and take action. The problem is, that because shame often concerns unspeakable taboos, it’s tough to discuss. As such, we barely consider if we deserve the shame we feel; we don’t hear other points of view, and it just feels like “us”. But we can be badly misinformed.

If you feel overwhelmed or suffocated by guilt and shame, this video is for you. There’s a lot to say, and I will probably do a much longer video at some point in the future, but for now, I hope this might be helpful for you.

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00:00 Introduction
01:30 Guilt: I did wrong
02:04 Shame: I am wrong
04:43 Where did most of your shame come from?
10:30 Is the shame valid?

#guilty #guilt #shame

The beautiful location of Canyonlands National Park inspired me to record this little video. It’s entirely off the cuff, but you can probably tell from my voice that this place holds a very special place in my heart. I hope that sentiment stretches all the way to you as you play along with the experience.

It’s intended to bring a sense of connection and kindness within; if you have a particular goal in mind, then you can bring that as an intention before you start the video, perhaps writing it down on a small piece of paper and holding it in your hand as you listen. Enjoy.

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00:00 Introduction
00:44 Only watch/listen when it’s safe & appropriate to do so!
01:18 Hypnotic experience begins

#guidedmeditation #hypnosis #connection #innerchild #kindness #kindnessmatters

Are you looking to make a change in your life, but you’re not quite sure how to go about it?

Before you drop a whole pile of money on a motivational guru, consider this: the decision to change does not come from outside. It comes from within and comes along at the right time for you. You can’t push it; you can’t force change. It comes when you’re ready for it. You might learn ways to re-appraise your stories by reading a book, seeing a motivational guru, watching a video or seeing a therapist. It’s possible that you can change your worldview and, therefore, come to a new conclusion. But effectively, what’s going on is you’re making a decision that takes a split second.

You may know what NOT to do at that point, but you’ll discover what TO do as a learning experiential process during your journey. And you’ll see when you’re on track because it feels like you’re coming home.

Unstick Your Life! A Guide to Personal Transformation

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#lifecoaching #changeyourlife #change #selfawareness #changeyourthoughts #lifecoach

Many people know about toxic negativity: where focus goes, energy flows and so the more we focus on the negativity, the more we experience it all around us. But are you tuned in to toxic positivity?

Consider the possibility: The more you prime yourself with positive mantras toward future riches, partners, business ventures or other forms of abundance, the more you may be reminding yourself of what you don’t have today. What a mind-bender. What on earth to do?

Mantras can work if you habituate them into your daily reality, but if you often push against yourself, or your inner chatter is constantly reminding you of positive nonsense that doesn’t gel with your truth, it is time to take stock. The back of your mind will always identify an incongruent veil of nonsensical optimism!

For me personally, reality is always more congruent. I can deal with reality. I can feel it in my body, check in with it and check when I’m on or off track. You can’t do that with toxic positivity because it never had a hook in reality.

Make sense? Watch on:)

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This video was filmed in Willis Creek Slot Canyon south of Cannonville, Utah. Great for big kids!

#toxic #toxicpositivity #williscreek #congruency

Are you spinning countless plates simultaneously, desperately trying to stop one from crashing to the floor? Are your radars on high alert for unexpected events? If so, this is for you.

Because the only way to feel truly in control is to relax your grip on the need to control. Inevitably, you’ll handle things to the best of your ability, in the way that feels right in the moment, whatever life delivers. Holding a tight grip is actually counter-intuitive & exhausting!

This video was taken at Dead Horse Point near Moab in Utah. That’s the entrancing Colorado River behind.

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00:00 Introduction
01:50 The control freak as a learned response to a previous inability failure to anticipate
03:27 You are truly in control the moment you feel able to release your need for control
06:35 Regress to the time you learned the meaning and re-evaluate
08:18 The futility of trying to change what’s already done
09:00 Self-forgiveness
13:24 Benefits of relaxing your grip on the need for control

#control #fear #worry #anxiety #moab #controlfreak #fear #anxiety #parts #internalfamilysystems

Do you find yourself sometimes getting caught up in drama? Do you wander off on autopilot, trying to score points against others whilst wondering why? Do you have script-like expectations of how your life is probably going to turn out? Are you playing games to avoid dealing with difficult situations?

In this video, we’re going to talk about the popular theory known as Transactional Analysis. Transactional Analysis is a theory that examines the way people communicate and interact with each other. Eric Berne, author of “Transactional Analysis”, introduced the concept of games people play. These games are patterns that people use to interact with others, and they often have negative consequences.

If you would find it really useful to spot these games before they gain a hold on your interactions, this video is for you!

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00:00 Introduction
01:06 What are games people play?
03:58 Eric Berne, Transactional Analysis
04:22 Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication
06:45 Pattern-interrupt the game
10:24 The origins of the games: The family system
14:39 The longer game: life scripts

#transactionalanalysis #selfawareness #drama #nonviolentcommunication #nvc #ericberne

Here’s a real-life example of how our minds create stories that are supposed to protect us but instead stifle our dreams and destroy our wishes. The intention seems to keep us safe, but the result kills our enthusiasm or fills us with fear. This video walks you through a few well-understood psychological illusions that might help if you are driven back by irrational fear!

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00:00 Introduction
00:25 My aim: to help you gain some perspective on irrational fears
07:43 The potential catastrophe
10:00 Is it happening?
13:00 A tip for when you forget your thoughts are only thoughts

#willpower #thechoice #choices #psychology #illusion #illusions #fear #fearless #knowledge #consideredlife #stoicism #psychology #psychologyfacts #nomorefear

Do you find yourself getting angry or frustrated a lot? If you find yourself frequently on edge, easy to trigger, internally conflicted or pent up like a pressure cooker ready to pop, let me show you how to stay calm when life gets crazy. In this video, we’re going to share with you some anger management tips that will help you handle difficult situations in a more effective way.

Anger and frustration can feel complicated, and so in this video, I chew over the messages and feelings that breathe fire into our unpredictable demon!

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A prickly tree overlooking Canyonlands National Park triggered my inspiration!

00:00 Introduction
01:37 There’s something good about anger!
02:53 How bad does it have to become before you choose something different?
04:38 The message behind the anger
06:29 Where is your background irritation coming from?
09:12 The mask as a coping strategy. The grinning Cheshire cat.
10:05 Reality vs. expectations. Should I change reality or change my expectations?
11:31 How to begin.
14:39 Learned shame
16:33 We are the average of our peer group
21:28 Forgive yourself
27:40 Benefits of being authentic

#anger #angermanagement #frustration #impatience #pressure #fracture #conflict #conflicts #peace

People are intrinsically insecure. Men, in particular, hold a precarious place in society: they need to prove themselves (which means taking risks) or potentially never find a mate. But there’s something highly credible in owning your insecurity. As in so many paradoxes of life, the end result delivers the exact opposite of what it first implies. There’s so much power in owning your powerlessness.

A few weeks ago, someone wrote on my video that I was seeking validation outside myself and was essentially insecure. And that got me thinking, what a great prompt for a video.

So, in this video, I get real and address the truths behind insecurity. Creativity and beauty come from our vulnerabilities, as does the drive to succeed and the need for significance and connection with others. As Shakespeare apparently said, ‘All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players’. Who am I to argue?

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00:00 Introduction
04:13 Insecurities move people, vulnerabilities create poetry
08:55 Insecurity as Integrity
10:30 The goal is to know our insecurities and, in so doing, secure them.
11:30 We are each the average of our peer group
12:51 Every one of us is a performer

#insecurity #security #attachment #attachmentstyles #creativity #beauty

In this video, I’m sharing a fabulous morning ritual to start your day on the right foot. It will help you create an invigorated physiology and a bright and optimistic mental attitude; it will also help you feel more refreshed and at ease with yourself and the opportunities that surround you.

When you begin your day with an experience of gratitude and an anticipation of the wonders to unfold, everything that pans out can be appreciated through that perspective. It’s a great way to bring joy to your experience.

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#morning #morningroutine #morningmotivation #morningvibes #gratitude #wonders #physiology #peakperformance #performance #attitude #fishertowers

This is a funny/peculiar story. Here’s the punchline: I never set out to have faith, yet somehow, it came. How on earth did that happen?

It came when I allowed myself to be small. When I abandoned what I thought was me and chose anything else. When I started to dance with the possibility of what I didn’t know.

When you abandon your story, amazing things happen. Things you could never have imagined. That led me to find faith in things beyond my comprehension: it’s an incredible sensation I never realised I was missing because I was so sure of myself! What an oxymoron: reduce what you are sure about and end up more grounded in the unknowable. Find your place in what’s not you. Huh.

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00:00 Introduction
02:40 Faith is a handing over of my ability to control situations.
03:35 A running cry to the world: I love you!
05:35 I am a story, an actor in a game far bigger than I can ever understand.

#faith #faithjourney #religion #skeptic #control #atheist #atheism #agnosticism #believer

What’s the point of therapy?

To get back on track – and out of therapy. To resolve hurdles in your way, take a step forward on the journey of self-understanding, and progress once again down your golden path. Therapy’s role is to help you find or regain the skills and confidence to handle whatever comes your way.

In this video, I will talk about becoming your own therapist by gaining the tools, the mindset and the willingness to deal with whatever life brings you, confident that you know yourself better than anyone else. I’m referring to any therapy, even though I talk from the perspective of the one I know best, hypnotherapy.

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(If I look a little tired, that’s because I was up at 4 a.m. to escape the midsummer heat!)

#therapy #psychology #psychotherapy

My offer to you today is a meditative, hypnotic practice to share some kindness with yourself, perhaps forgive yourself if you feel that might be of benefit, and leave your baggage exactly where it needs to be. My words are intended to help you discover some of the truths inside of you, to the extent that I can guess without us having ever met!

You will need to set aside about forty minutes to benefit from this guided experience, but it’s worth your precious time 😉

As with all hypnotic inductions, please only watch or listen when it is safe and appropriate to do so. You will probably want to close your eyes and dive into the process.

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00:00 Introduction
00:51 Hypnotherapy is different from a YouTube recording. It’s collaborative.
05:25 Only watch or listen when its safe and appropriate to do so.
06:25 Induction begins
43:02 Experience ends!

#hypnotic #hypnosis #selfhelp #selfhypnosis #mindfullness #mindfulness #mindfulnessmeditation

Do you dream of making changes in your life but face obstacles in your way? Well, that seems to be part of the territory. For most decisions, there’s a price to be paid.

There’s a proven way to make changes in life, and I have a real-life illustration of how to do precisely that: my decision to start publishing videos on YouTube! This has been a long time coming, with much internal conflict around fixed ideas in my head, and it amused me how the steps fell into place exactly like the theory says. So, if that resonates, watch on!

And what a background, hmm? Just outside Hanksville, Utah.

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00:00 Introduction
03:38 The fixed ideas that blocked my decision-making power
06:10 The misdirected conclusions of the fixed idea
06:46 The inner conflict
08:47 The process of becoming ready to change and then taking action
12:20 A new perspective on an old problem
13:00 The *real* issue behind the presenting conflict
13:35 Get leverage on yourself to take action
15:00 Baby steps.

#lifedecisions #yotuber #conqueryourfears

Play full out. Be yourself. And smile! We all make mistakes, we’re all members of the human race and we all have off days. But if we lean into ourselves, rather than pretending to be something we are not, life can be fabulous. When we embrace our imperfections, it turns out there’s something perfect in there, after all.

This is a kinda tongue-in-cheek vid that I recorded when I was starting to feel my own absurdity. It’s designed to make you laugh, but the sentiment is *so* real.

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00:00 Introduction
00:56 Aiming for a higher vibrational frequency
02:22 Wise words from my hypnotherapy teacher
05:48 Musterbation
06:33 Luxuriate in your offness.
07:59 We’re not our thoughts, we’re our actions.
08:21 Cut yourself some slack.

Lighten up and smile:)

#identity #play #authenticity #authentic #moab #ownvoice #ownyourlife #lifecoaching #lifecoach #change #darkside #shadow #shadowwork #shadowself #darknightofthesoul #selfcare

I found a place to rest amidst the top of the world, overlooking Angel’s Landing in Zion National Park. I had set off early and had the place to myself. The sun wasn’t even peeking above the clifftops, so it seemed the perfect place to offer you a gift of peace and calm. Play along; I hope you enjoy it.

If you want to explore more hypnotic meditations, take a look at my website https://swisshypnotherapy.ch

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#hypnosis #relaxation #induction #peace #personaldevelopment #peaceofmind #peaceful #calm #calming #zion #nationalpark #zionnationalpark #angelslanding #bliss

Where do your fixed ideas come from? Let me give you the punchline: We either receive them from authority figures (especially our parents) or learn them from life experiences.

This video covers the times when we are most susceptible to suggestions from others and the stories we create that affect our future perceptions. So, might it be useful to de-hypnotise yourself?

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00:00 Introduction
00:56 Anybody can be your hypnotist
03:11 Your most important hypnotists: parents
07:20 You don’t know what you think you know.

#stories #hypnotist #parents #parenting #authority #family #familystory #personaldevelopment #changeyourlife #lifecoaching #authenticity #changeyourthoughts #loveyourself

We all relate to stories. We identify with particular characters and draw meaning and purpose from the emotions that the characters bring up inside us. But the great news is that we can turn the tables on the archetypes and ask them to help us with the things we are most stuck in. They can be incredibly useful in making better decisions. Sounds funky, and yep…it is.

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00:00 Introduction
01:25 What are archetypes?
05:12 How to fix your conflicts by asking your archetypes. Formulate your question.
06:29 The grounding process
07:52 Ask your warrior
10:13 Invite the magician
12:17 Invite the lover
13:36 Ask your sovereign

#personaldevelopment #change #changeyourlife #lifecoaching #authenticity #lifecoach #hypnotherapy #imagination #imagination #willpower #mindscripting #storytelling #storyteller #story #dreams #character #carljung #archetypes #heroes #mindfulness #archesnationalpark #fieryfurnace #utah

Forgiveness: we are frequently reminded it should be good for us to do. Forgive and forget, move on, be thankful for the good things in life… and so on. I’m not absolutely convinced that we should forgive everything, but I do subscribe to the view that in forgiving others, we help ourselves and do it on our own terms. So this video goes through the process of whether and how to find a way to forgive others. I hope it might bring some light to your perspective.

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00:00 Introduction
01:28 Suffering is pain multiplied by resistance
03:21 How to forgive others: look at the choices we all mindlessly make on auto-pilot
13:00 Self-directed anger

#forgiveness #personaldevelopment #whoami #change #changeyourlife #authenticity #lifecoach #loveyourself #utah #archesnationalpark #moab #peace #peaceofmind #mindfulness #acceptance